Pearls of Wisdom

by Dr. Russell Ferstandig

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1. Perception is reality.

2. The quality of one's life is based upon how many days they enjoyed their life. The more good days, the better ones life.

3. People’s behaviors are totally predictable if you understand how they perceive and think about things. If somebody's behaviors do not make sense than you do not understand how they are thinking.

4. People will change their behaviors when they realize the negative consequences of their existing behaviors on their life and the benefits derived by a positive change.

5. Just about anything can and will influence and distort and individual’s thoughts and behaviors.

6. Because emotional defenses distort our perceptions about the world around us and how we interact with the world, people frequently do not accurately see how they regularly take away from their overall pleasure as they live their life.

7. Small problems that occur on an ongoing basis progressively cause large problems that ultimately take away the pleasure of living on a daily basis, causing people to progressively and somewhat invisibly become depressed, anxious and overwhelmed.

8. As people become depressed and anxious and overwhelmed they have two choices: 1) take corrective steps either on their own or with the help of a mental health worker or psychiatrist; or 2) they actively engage in behaviors, including drug use, that distort their unfounded observations and beliefs so that they do not need to make positive changes.

9. As you grow, what you previously considered smart, reasonable and wise will look somewhat less smart, reasonable and possibly foolish because you are now wiser and more experienced in that area.

Steve Jobs offered this simple quote about how he found success and that demonstrates this pearl.
"You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something - your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

10. The effectiveness of a perception, belief or behavior cannot be judged accurately unless it is used correctly to get the best results—a great hammer is lousy at cutting wood.